Tag Archives: Resilience

Things Nobody Wants to Know Are Part of Me

Posted on March 24, 2020 by Shay

The amount and magnitude of cruelty and contempt I endured in my life is mind-boggling. If I described to you some of the events that were common in my childhood you would vomit or at least feel like it. Yes, … Continue reading →

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The Coming Tide of Covid-19 PTSD

Posted on March 20, 2020 by Shay

Increasing portions of our world now operate in PTSD land. People are chronically stressed by the constant threat of danger from something over which they have no power. I want to welcome you to my world. Yes, Covid-19 is a … Continue reading →

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Break the cycle of distress with self-regulation

Posted on December 26, 2019 by Shay

If I could teach everyone in the world one thing it would be self-regulation. This is a key ability for all people, one often disrupted by trauma, especially in those with earliest onset. These simple practices can help an anxious … Continue reading →

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How the number one health crisis in the world caused me to experiment on a living human brain

Posted on December 11, 2019 by Shay

In the past 3 years I have conducted experiments on a living human brain. Mine. I necessarily studied developmental trauma, trauma theory, the neurobiology of trauma, and trauma resolution. This is due to the Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) I … Continue reading →

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When your trust is unapologetically broken, forgive yourself

Posted on May 27, 2018 by Shay

When someone breaks our trust we sometimes feel a sense of lack for having trusted, for having allowed ourselves to be cheated. It’s an element that is often overlooked, though it may have a deep effect. After the sailing disaster of … Continue reading →

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And on the 7th day, I heard a voice

Posted on June 19, 2017 by Shay

I felt a little piece of my heart sink the moment I saw the boat. From my vantage point, the driver’s seat of a rental car, the vessel was hardly more than a white dot bobbing gently on a mooring … Continue reading →

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To those who think they envy my life

Posted on March 9, 2017 by Shay

“If you can’t handle pain you can’t be a sailor.” – Shay Seaborne Periodically, people tell me that they envy the life I lead, but those who think they envy the sailor’s life rarely want to live it. Rather, from a … Continue reading →

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The day I sailed a patio lounge chair

Posted on February 17, 2017 by Shay

The day I sailed a patio lounge chair, six years ago, I was recovering from the flu and enjoying the unseasonably warm day by resting outdoors. I tried to nap in the sun, but the wind kept calling me to … Continue reading →

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Fingerprints on the land

Posted on December 19, 2016 by Shay

Ralph Waldo Emerson was right in his assertion that success includes, “To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch…” Last year as I winnowed my belongings when I downsized to “two bags and … Continue reading →

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Star of wonder

Posted on December 13, 2016 by Shay

A concept I came across in recovery from childhood abuse and trauma is that of going back to one’s childhood, to meet the child you were, and give her a gift with some words to go with it. Tell her … Continue reading →

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